Saturday, February 2, 2013

You & Your Mother

By Abdullah Ishaque

Often we get caught up in our own lives and forget about the things that should matter. We regularly neglect the most important people in our lives: our mothers. The following is a true story about a friend and his relationship with his mother.

There was once a teenage boy who had disobeyed and disrespected his mother. As a result, for two consecutive weeks, he didn't speak a word to his mother; everyday he'd go to school, come back, eat dinner, and go straight to his room without speaking to her. It was a very trivial argument and surely it did not warrant such a harsh reaction from the boy. 

He wasn't always the greatest son and his relationship with his family wasn't perfect. He cared for his parents, however he was torn between trying to fit in with his friends and trying to be a good son, albeit he was trying harder to fit in with his friends. He had older siblings that were the "ideal sons and daughters"; they would help their mother clean, cook, and would always be respectful towards her. Family friends and relatives insisted him to look up to his parents, to listen to them, and to learn some values about respecting them. He never bothered, of course. He continued to have plenty of arguments and fights with his mother, and they would almost always get resolved when his mother would forgive him. This time, however, it seemed as if his relationship with his mother was doomed for good.

Two weeks after the argument, the boy was eating breakfast before going to school and his mom said, "Before you leave, give me the rent for your room." The boy was hurt, but couldn't get himself to apologize because he wanted to show that he was strong, rebellious, and independent. After a couple of minutes the mother quietly hugged him. The boy broke down in the arms of his mother like a newborn baby. He realized the mistakes he made, how disrespectful he had been, and how ignorant he had been. He realized how much his mother cared for him even though she was angry for his bad behaviour. His mom forgave him for all he did. The boy changed for the better in literally 5 minutes - all it took was one hug and a realization of his mistakes.

This true story happened a couple of years ago to someone I know. He gave me his permission to share his story.

Our mother is the most important person in our lives. They are our friends, but they may seem like our enemies at times when we think we are right and they're wrong. They are the ones that keep us grounded, give us that "It will be okay, inshallah" even if we think we are in a complete mess. It is our duty to respect our mothers, care for them, and show them that we love them. 

A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (PBUH) said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim)

We have all taken our parents for granted at some point in our lives. Mark today the day that we will change. Start paying back the debt we owe our parents by showing that we love them, by obeying them, and by respecting them. Surprise them with a hug, wash the dishes, get an A on a test and make them proud, leave a glass of water by their bedside before they sleep without them asking. It is always the simplest of things that will touch our mothers' hearts and give us the capacity to make them proud.

Start now because when they are gone, we will regret what we could have done, but did not do.


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