Thursday, May 19, 2016

Duhai Adinda

Duhai adinda,
Aku faham gusarmu,
Ditinggal seorang,
Dibiar berjuang,
Sepi kamu sendiri.

Maafkan aku, kekandamu.
Kerana tiada di sisi,
Aku juga pernah melalui,
Sepertinya tangis ini berbekas lagi,

Jalan yang kita pilih ini,
Tiada manusia yang menjamin,
Melainkan dia yang Esa,
Yang Maha Hidup,
Yang Maha Mendengar,

Tempat mencurahkan segala kesal,
Limpahan perasaan,
Doa yang tiada bertepian.
Disebalik esak tangis di penghujung malam,

Menjadi pemimpin itu bukan mudah,
Apatah lagi,
Kita ini Hawa',

Kamu kuat, adinda,
Senyumlah,
Teruskan bersinar,
Mungkin kita tidak akan lama bersama,
Medan di luar menggamit masa,
Teguhkan dirimu,
Jangan gugur,
Jangan undur.


V5J (2029, 19 Mei 2016)


Tuesday, May 10, 2016

He Knows

There's just a couple of days before my Senior Year kickstarts.  Haven't really brush off the internship bug, I found my HSE colleague amiss.  Despite the high living cost, I kinda miss the simplicity of living there, as an intern.  It is peaceful there and the idea of being able to make mistakes and to learn from mistakes, is just intriguing.

Not really sure whether I'm just overthinking or it's the habit inside, I keep seeking for my purpose of living.  Yes, Allah has stated in Az-Zaariyat about our role as a caliph and in another verse, as an abid . It's there, clearly written.

But as a typical human, I just can't help but to keep seeking the reasoning of living, to answer these unanswerable questions.

Am I doing the right thing?
What the future has in store for me?
Have I been a good daughter?
Can I make it till graduation?
Can I survive after graduation?
What can I do more?
Have I impacted the society I'm living in?

and the list goes on.

This also includes the shivers coming from the idea that people will simply judge us from the numbers in our CGPA, without even flinching on our vision and dreams, what we really want to do.  The world is cruel outside, and I am here minute under the shadows of the giants.  Yes, the uncertainty is chilling.  This is where we seek for His blessings and mercy, to open doors of sustenance and to make all obstacles manageable.

I'm seeking for hope.

Every sliver of light that may ignite the soul inside, to keep me moving. 

He knows how terrified and hopeful I am, for the ticking clock that shall move obediently, until the end of time.

Ya Allah, you know we more than I know myself, do not let me be in full control of myself, for it's You who knows best.



Thursday, March 24, 2016

Menjadi Orang Bermasyarakat

Bismillah,

Antara perkara yang dipelajari semasa berpraktikal hampir 6 bulan di Kerteh ini adalah untuk belajar hidup bermasyarakat. Melalui program-program Nisa', usrah Ameerah, aktiviti BAKIP dan juga interaksi dengan staf-staf Carigali sendiri, menjadi pelajar engineering tidak bermakna dengan penggunaan jargon-jargon teknikal dan laras bahasa berkadar tinggi.  Segala ilmu yang aku pelajari hanya akan jadi bernilai apabila aku benar-benar faham, lalu dituturkan dengan bahasa yang lebih mudah agar bermanfaat kepada pendengar. Supaya mereka faham dan maklum akan hal yang sebenar, tanpa mengira latar belakang.

Ada Apa Dengan Menjadi Orang Masyarakat? 

HAMKA menyebut akan erti orang bermasyarakat dalam tulisannya Pribadi Hebat yang bunyinya begini :
" Dia suka bergaul, suka menolong, tidak menyisih dari masyarakat,  tidak memikirkan kepentingan diri sendiri atau keluarganya sahaja, tidak gila pangkat, mengerti kedudukan orang lain dan merasa dirinya ikut dalam kedudukan itu.  Hormat kepada yang tua, kasih kepada yang muda, pandai bergaul, pandai berkawan. Kita gelarilah dia dengan gelar 'orang masyarakat '."


Beliau juga menambah lagi, " banyak guru, dokter, hakim, insinyur dan orang yang memiliki banyak koleksi buku serta diplomanya segulung besar, dalam masyarakat dia menjadi mati sebab dia bukan 'orang masyarakat'. Hidupnya hanya mementingkan diri sendiri dan diplomanya, hanya untuk mencari harta. Hatinya sudah seperti batu, tidak mempunyai cita-cita selain kesenangan dirinya. Pribadinya tidak kuat, karena ia bergerak bukan karena dorongan jiwa dan akal.  Dan, kepandaiannya yang banyak seringkali menimbulkan ketakutan, bukan menimbulkan keberanian untuk memasuki dan menjalani hidup. "

Sangat penting untuk kita sebagai daie supaya menjadi orang masyarakat, bermula dengan masyarakat kampus itu sendiri. Kenalpasti apa kelebihannya, apa kurangnya, apa cabaran dan dilemanya. Waqie di kampus IPTS manakan sama dengan Universiti Awam. Juga untuk belajar mengenali orang di luar lingkungan universiti, supaya kita sedar akan bebanan ilmu yang tertunggak di pundak.  Bahawa segala penerangan dan fakta itu perlu sampai kepada semua, tidak kira di ceruk mana sekalipun. Mereka berhak mengetahui kebenaran.

40 Tahun Rasulullah s.a.w Ditarbiyah

Semasa Seminar Akhlak beberapa minggu lepas, Ustaz Syaari menerangkan hikmah mengapa Rasulullah s.a.w ditarbiyah selama 40 tahun sebelum menerima tanggungjawab kerasulan.

Yang pertama, social engagement. 
Jangka masa 40 tahun itu cukup panjang untuk Baginda mengenali kaumnya dan kaumnya mengenali Baginda. Integriti Baginda cukup terbina, dengan peristiwa Hilfal Fudhul dan juga perletakan semula Hajarul Aswad. Bagindalah Al-Amin kerana akhlaknya yang cukup dipercayai masyarakat. Dan Baginda juga cukup mengenali masyaratnya. Apa dilema mereka, apa cabaran mereka, aqidahnya bagaimana. Rasulullah s.a.w membesar dengan mereka, itulah social engagement yang sangat penting sebagai tarbiyah dari Allah.

Yang kedua, membina kematangan diri.
Selepas penurunan wahyu yang pertama, bermulalah episod ujian kepada Baginda dan keluarga,  juga sahabat-sahabat yang terawal memeluk Islam. Ujian kehilangan ibu, ayah dan datuk tersayang semasa kecil sebenarnya membina akhlak Rasulullah s.a.w yang sabar. Lamanya proses tarbiyah Baginda adalah demi kelangsungan penyebaran Islam 23 tahun berikutnya selepas turunnya wahyu dan dengan janji Allah masih tersebar hingga sekarang hinggalah hari kiamat. SubhanAllah 

Book smart or street smart? Or both?

Masih banyak untuk saya perbaiki dan pelajari, tapi ternyata perjalanan praktikal ini banyak membuka mata dan minda. Untuk menjadi daie, kita perlu menjadi orang bermasyarakat. Bukan sekadar mahasiswa yang tenggelam dengan teori dan fakta, tapi mana isinya? Juga teringat pesanan naqib usrah kami, Ir Haji Khairil yang menggalakkan supaya kami bermula dari bawah dan membangunkan diri secara 'street smart'. 

We have lots to do, let's start moving! 
Siiru ala barakatillah 


Tuesday, March 22, 2016

Bicara Tentang Semangat Kepemudaan

Pembuka kata dari HAMKA dalam tulisannya Pribadi Hebat

Membaca buku HAMKA, dan beberapa tokoh lain misalannya, sangat menyentuh tentang pentingnya menggunakan masa muda sebaiknya. Seperti Sultan Mehmet Al-Fatih yang berjaya membuka Constantinople pada usia 21 tahun, pada usia 22 tahun kota apa yang bakal aku buka? Itu satu soalan yang selalu terbit dan terngiang-ngiang dalam minda. 

Hero dari Zaman Silam

Rasulullah s.a.w pada masa mudanya sudah merantau ke ceruk negara, ketika usia Baginda 25 tahun sudah 18 kali menjejak negara luar sehingga ke Yaman, Syria, Basrah dan Bahrain.

Kisah Ashabul Kahfi dan Ashabul Ukhdud (rujuk Surah Al-Buruj ayat 4-8) , juga berkisar tentang pemuda-pemuda yang cuba mempertahankan keimanan mereka, lalu diuji dengan cubaan yang berbagai-bagai.

Mereka dari zaman masing-masing, kita pula bagaimana? Dalam suasana yang rencam, ditekan dengan cabaran ekonomi, sosial dan akhlak yang membingungkan, siapakah pemuda yang bakal bangun untuk mempertahankan Ummah ini?


Sejenak bersama Surah Al-'Asr

Di dalam bukunya Rahsia Kejayaan Para Ulama, Syeikh Dr. Solah Abdul Fattah Al-Khalidi memulakan dengan penjelasan dari ayat-ayat Surah Al-'Asr. 

”Demi masa. 
Sesungguhnya manusia itu benar-benar berada dalam kerugian. 
Kecuali orang-orang yang beriman dan mengerjakan amal sholih dan saling menasihati supaya menaati kebenaran dan saling menasihati supaya menetapi kesabaran” 
(QS. Al ‘Ashr).

Asas bagi maksud Al-'Asr (di dalam bahasa Arab) adalah 'menekan sesuatu sehingga mendapatkan perahan' , seperti menekannya untuk mengeluarkan air daripada baju.

Sekiranya memerah sesuatu bermaksud menekan ke atasnya untuk mengeluarkan apa yang ada di dalam, maka masa dan umur manusia adalah perahan.


"Dan kami telah menurunkan daripada awan, air (hujan) yang mencurah-curah." 
(QS Al-Naba':14)


Oleh itu, wajib bagi manusia untuk memerah masa dan umur dengan sebenar-benarnya dan menekannya dengan bersungguh-sungguh supaya mereka dapat mengambil faedah yang baik daripadanya dan membawa keluar manfaat dan faedah daripada masa dan umur.

Umur seseorang adalah perahan yang khusus untuknya.  Wajib baginya untuk memerahnya, menghabiskannya serta menghidupkannya dengan sebaik mungkin.

Mutiara dari Syeikh Dr. Solah ini cukup tuntas untuk menerangkan betapa pentingnya kita mengusahakan agar usia muda ini digunakan sebaiknya. People may say that life starts at 40, but even Rasulullah had a long tarbiyah process from Allah, 40 years before the revelation.

Kenapa Masa Muda?

Masa muda ini kita sihat dan bertenaga, walau mungkin kurang wang, tapi banyak pengalaman yang boleh kita cari, alami dan hargai.   Kitalah yang patut menjuarai isu-isu masyarakat, mendalami kesan ketidakstabilan ekonomi , mengenalpasti apa kurangnya sistem pendidikan kini, juga untung nasib saudara manusia di segenap pelusuk dunia.  Kita jugalah yang perlu mengetahui nasib rakyat marhaen yang tertindas, bukan hanya bercita-cita menjawat jawatan eksekutif, lalu hanya gusar tentang untung nasib sendiri. 

Ya, keadaan sekarang menggusarkan semua. Aku sendiri juga. Tapi harga ilmu yang ditimba di universiti itu dibayar dengan titik peluh nelayan yang berpanas, pekerja-pekerja industri yang bergadai nyawa, guru-guru yang tidak pernah mengenal lelah juga rata-rata rakyat sekaliannya.  We owe this society, and we need them as much as they need us.  

Bukan Sekadar Himmah Semata

Tapi ingat, pergerakan kita ini bukan tertegak atas semangat semata.  Himmah yang kadang-kala menggunung, kadang-kala kendur itu tidak cukup untuk menjamin konsistensi dan keistiqamahan (survivality) kita.  Penuhilah majlis-majlis dan wacana ilmu, tidak kira berkenaan agama atau isu semasa, biar kita orang muda yang memenuhinya!  Semoga dengan kefahaman itu dapat disusuli dengan amal dan tindakan.

Teruskan bergerak wahai anak muda.  Aku sendiri tidak pasti tentang masa depanku, tapi kita masih boleh bermimpi yang indah-indah, agar harapan dan azam itu terus bergerak.  Semoga kita menjadi pemuda Islam yang dijanjikan itu, InsyaAllah.

Siiru ala barakatillah

Monday, March 21, 2016

Notes from Seminar Akhlak : Menuju Kesempurnaan Peribadi (part 1)

Bismillah,


Alhamdulillah, last week I had a chance to attend 'Seminar Akhlak' organized by Gabungan Belia Institut Ibnu Al-Qayyim in UIA. I can say that the 6-hour trip from Dungun to KL was worth it as the content of the program were superb!  As their first time organizing this inaugural seminar, the programme secretariat did a great job.  Really wish that I could do the same in UTP, hopefully Biiznillah :)





Well, moving on to the content of the seminar, we were intrigued to listen to the 5 speakers, each of them specialized in their own field.  I have my own stand in seeking for 'ilm, that knowledge is knowledge, haq is haq, bathil is bathil.  We need to appreciate more in order to learn.  I'm not saying that our system of tarbiyah/education is inadequate,  it lined up everything that is essential.  Yet, as a Muslim progressing towards betterment,  we should put effort in closing the gaps, as the boundaries of knowledge reaches no horizon. Try to learn something about everything,  and try to be a master of at least ONE thing, that's a quote mentioned by Ustaz Zahiruddin Zabidi during his presentation.

Upon attending this seminar, I realized that akhlak is actually quite a rare topic to be covered as a whole.  Perhaps we've been regularly introduced to 'adab belajar' or 'adab berjemaah'.  But to see akhlak as an output of our aqidah and deeds (ibadah), I believe we shall realize that we are in a deep trouble right now.  The dreading condition of this society, is actually a product of a lot of variables including the family institution and the education system itself.


Here are some of the takeaways that I've jotted down during the seminar. I really hope that some of you can gain benefit from this. 

Ustaz Hasrizal Abdul Jamil : Epistemologi Akhlak dan Peranannya Dalam Pembentukan Tamadun Manusia



Akhlak itu diibaratkan sebagai buah sementara aqidah menjadi akar dan ibadah menjadi batang / dahan. Apabila buah mulai diserang penyakit dan tidak lagi lebat, apakah patut kita menebang pohonan itu? 
Atau periksa akarnya dahulu?

1.  Ustaz Hasrizal memulakan sesi dengan definisi akhlak yang diberikan oleh Imam Birgivi iaitu:

 ' akhlak itu adalah satu kekuatan yang berakar tunjang di dalam diri, terbit daripadanya perbuatan-perbuatan seseorang secara spontan dan mudah, tanpa memerlukan kepada fikiran dan pertimbangan. Ia adalah sesuatu yang boleh diubah-ubah, kerana adanya pembuktian syara' mengenai hal tersebut, malah turut disepakati oleh golongan pemikir serta eksperimen.'

- simply said, akhlak is something that happens automatically, other variables put aside. For example, helping somebody in need or respecting the elderly.
- Parents plays the main role in instilling the foundation of akhlak of their children, teachers will only act as supporter.  Therefore, it is very wrong to expect that the teacher will teach all manners needed by a human. The common sense starts at home.



2.  Ustaz also outlined 3 main pillars of akhlak which are ; Al-Nutq, Al-Ghadb and Al-Syahwah.
- Al-Nutq is the ability to think and to understand (kekuatan memahami).
- Al-Ghadb is a strong drive from inside to refuse bad things (apa yang menggerakkan jiwa kita untuk menolak kekejian).
- Al-Syahwah is a motivation from inside to achieve something (apa yang menggerakkan jiwa untuk mendapatkan apa yang sesuai).
- Within these 3 pillars, one must try to find a balance (wasatiyyah) in order to shape the character.
- As humans, these 3 elements are very dynamic, depending on our background, situation and circumstances.

3. With regards to our current education system, the speaker shared some of his thoughts :
- in the early years of childhood, let your kids play - that is the essence of our character shaping.
- Quoting Sheryl G. Feinstein in her book 
' instead of thinking of the adolescent brain as a house that is completely built and only needs to have furnishings added, we need to think of the adolescent brain as a house that is only framed and still needs walls, wiring and a roof'.

Ustaz Hasrizal's presentation mainly covered the meaning of akhlak (from Imam Birgivi and Imam Al-Ghazali's point of view) and the pillars that functions as the basis of character shaping. All throughout the lively session, he used examples from the education system in Finland to be compared with Malaysia.

Dr. Sofiah Samsudin : Institusi Kekeluargaan Sebagai Pusat Pendidikan Akhlak Terawal

Dr. Sofiah's presentation is something new to me. Yes, it somehow relates parenting with character and moral shaping, but the way Dr. Sofiah presented it gives the urge that the preparation starts from now on.

1.  Institusi kekeluargaan sebagai pusat pendidikan terawal?
- Keluarga adalah sekolah pertama anak-anak.
- Guru mereka adalah ibu bapanya
- Amanah sebagai pendidik, pembimbing dan pelindung mereka sepanjang hayat.



2. Ibubapa sebagai murabbi keluarga dan apa yang diperlukan : (OK, yang ni dah macam persediaan untuk baitul muslim)
- Melakar blueprint anak yang dicita-citakan
- Menentukan silibus untuk anak
- Mengajar fardhu ain dan aplikasinya
- Memberi nafkah yang halal dan nutrisi seimbang
- Mengajar membaca Al-Quran, memahami, mengamal dan menyebarkannya.
- Membuang sifat buruk dan menanam sifat baik

3.  Asas perkahwinan berdasarkan Quran dan Sunnah (menurut Dr. Jawiah Dakir)
- Iman dan taqwa
- Cinta dan kasih sayang (Mawaddah & Rahmah)
- Pergaulan yang baik
- Amanah tugas & tanggungjawab nafkah
- Keadilan
- Pendidikan & pembentukan peribadi yang cemerlang
- Ketaatan dan kesetiaan

From these points, I realized that it'll take a lot from both sides, husband and wife in shaping the family. Dr. Sofiah reminded that sacrifice (pengorbanan) is very much needed in the early years. I still can recall her saying " kalau nak anak-anak bangun tahajud pukul 5, takkan ibunya nak bangun pukul 6?"


We determine the blueprint of our family and children. Also, do not forget the power of du'a, as He is the One who creates and hold our hearts.  Dr. Sofiah shared a du'a made by Prophet Ibrahim a.s asking for a pious (solehin) child.  And Allah granted his prayer by blessing him with Ismail, Ishaq, then followed by the next generation of Yaakob, right until our beloved Rasulullah s.a.w.  Our prayers do not only impact our child, it can go beyond generations, that's how impactful it is.

I returned from the program with the realization that there's lots to be done, in terms of preparation and learning. InsyaAllah I'll share some takeaway from the other 3 speakers in the next post.  


Take a look on what we started
Oh, spreading kindness all around
Don't you know it's so contagious
Take a hit and pass it down

Daughtry - Torches

Thursday, March 3, 2016

Of Reed Beds and Blessings

Assalamualaikum :)

This has been my 6th month residing in Kerteh, finishing my internship journey.  Time really flies without mercy here, it's all up to us to decide on what to fill it in. Khalas
Today I was given an opportunity to visit a reed bed site in a nearby plant.  Well, as an intern, a number of questions spontaneously popped up in my mind.  

What is reed bed?
The answer of this question, given by Mr. Wikipedia is reed beds are aquatic plant based systems which allow bacteria, fungi and algae to digest the sewage and clean the water.  It actually looks almost like our own Malaysian-grown 'lalang' or paddy.

This is how it looks like. 
(Pics from Google, most probably not in Malaysia)


Our expectation of seeing a typically complicated industrial effluent treatment site left us in awe as actually, reed bed looks just like 'sawah padi'.  Apparently, there are certain species of reed equipped with abilities to filter specific contaminants ( to the like of heavy metals and dangerous byproducts of chemical processes).  For now, the site that we've visited in Kerteh is the second plant in Malaysia applying this method to treat industrial effluent.  Nice right?  

For now, this method is commercially applied in UK, but not yet in our country.  In contrary to the current method of wastewater treatment, this method is still under study and just started to be realized in a number of industrial sites.  Reeds actually have very high survival rate, so after the construction of the beds, only minimal care are needed.  

SubhanAllah, the answer to our questions are actually circling around us.  Who knows, one of the easiest way of polishing wastewater is by going back to earth itself, by bioremediation.  Every creations does have its own specific function.  His treasures are surely everywhere, it's up to us to search for it.  



As stated in Surah Al-'Alaq verse 1-5, 

"Recite in the name of your Lord who created. (1)  Created man from a clinging substance. (2)  Recite in the name of your Lord that is most Generous. (3)  Who taught by the pen.  (4) Taught men that which he new not.(5)"

Allah asks us to read (iqra). For there are many things that lies beyond our knowing.  Keep seeking for it, you shall find something.  With regards to verse 4 and 5, I'm quoting in verbatim some explanations written by Buya HAMKA in his famous Tafsir Al-Azhar.

“Dia yang mengajarkan dengan qalam.” (ayat 4). Itulah keistimewaan Tuhan itu lagi. Itulah kemuliaan-Nya yang tertinggi. Yaitu diajarkan-Nya kepada manusia berbagai ilmu, dibuka-Nya berbagai rahasia, diserahkan-Nya berbagai kunci untuk pembuka perbendaharaan Allah, yaitu dengan qalam. Dengan pena! 

Di samping lidah untuk membaca, Tuhan pun mentakdirkan pula bahwa dengan pena ilmu pengetahuan dapat dicatat. Pena adalah beku dan kaku, tidak hidup, namun yang dituliskan oleh pena itu adalah berbagai hal yang dapat difahamkan oleh manusia “Mengajari manusia apa-apa yang dia tidak tahu.” (ayat 5).



It's magical how the tafsir beautifully describes these powerful verses.  Those same verses gives me drive to continuously seek for knowledge.  It gives me hope that if everyone work to find practical solutions like this, the world will be a better place.  The society alive and in peace, the land blessed , the environment remained untouched and the leaders corruption-free.  That's how I imagine 'baldatun thoyyibatun wa rabbun ghafur' which bears the meaning of a peaceful and prosperous country, blessed by Allah (Saba : 15).

Let's continue moving, shall we?
For each of us have our own significant role to play in our conquest of His blessings.  As humans, our lives are intertwined with each other, so we just can't afford to be ignorant and individualistic.  Keep moving, keep fighting and despite the unstability and chaotic atmosphere, we pray for the light at the end of the tunnel. Stay optimistic!

Thursday, February 11, 2016

Thoughts on Marriage and Parenting

Bismillah,

Couple of days ago, I watched a talk show by Aiman Azlan (ft. Maria Elena) sharing their experience about what they didn't know about marriage (before the wedding, of course) and wished to know sooner.  Anyway, the discussion was interactively beneficial, Aiman Azlan as always, moderated the topic articulately and Nadrah was a cute distraction :)  

Both Aiman and Maria shared their part in adapting to marriage life and not so long after, parenthood itself.  To brothers and sisters out there who are preparing to get married or wondering on what to equip yourself with, you really should watch this video.  And yes, to adik-adik who are always thinking on the beautiful, colourful cotton-candy life after marriage, you should too.


Some takeaway points shared by Aiman and Maria Elena (she's my senior in UTP, but we've never met since the gap is so long):
1. Lower down your expectations - the same person you thought you've figured out may turn to be a whole lot different. The first year is where you adapt everything, all in.
2. Sharing responsibilities
3. On parenting, the same thing that works for other children may not work for your child.
4. Chill , as the time goes by, you will learn the necessary skills needed to manage your household and life.

I recalled Aiman and Maria stating that moving on to parenthood is like being hit by a tsunami...wooosh. You just don't have time to take a seat back and relax, but both of you need to brave through the new waves, new challenges set every time.  Rest assured, the beautiful part is real, but you need to work it out, put some effort, give in and then you will find what you've been searching for.



What's In?

I really should focus on my literature review and paperwork reading on legal compliance of industrial effluent system throughout this holiday, but now I'm writing this article..huhu.  So dear friends, for the sake of contentment of my heart and my mind, I shall finish this write up today  and revert to my goal of this week. Ok, I'm being ambitious as always ..tehee

In writing this post, I'm trying my best to find the balancing point between reality and lovey-dovey fairy-tale that you've watched everyday in the television, or read in your countless novels of Cinta Si *****. In another word, please wake up from your plain imagination and get ready with real life situation.


Life is all about finding balance, right?


Bapak Cahyadi Takariawan stated in his book "Di Jalan Dakwah Aku Menikah" that the aim of marriage is to meet the interest of many parties (mempertemukan kepentingan-kepentingan).  Moving towards that direction, you are merging two families of different social, cultural and  physical background.  Simply saying, you are letting another new person into your life, creating a lifelong bond with the verses of 'akad' and embracing the nature (fitrah) of companionship.  That is how marriage functions. 

It took me quite some time to write this up as I'd personally rather talk (or write) about politics, student movement,women empowerment, feminism or saving Gotham.  Well, just bare with me for this one time, then we'll resume our discussion on the current political state of this country or what book I'm reading right now :)

The Importance of Continuously Seeking Knowledge 

I still remember Ustazah Isfadiah's advice during our meet-up couple of years ago about equipping ourselves with enough 'ilm in marriage and parenting.  It is actually very OK if you want to join parenting seminars/classes now when you're still single. When else?  Ustazah herself attended those classes in her university years.  




So dear friends, please spend some time and stipend to learn as much as you could, right now.  Find your passion in seeking knowledge, because now, the time is in your hand, you are the only person making key decisions of yourself.  I'm not specifically pointing on parenting knowledge, but all knowledge that you can grasp.  

Sayidatina 'Aisyah r.a is a woman and she is a scholar of the Ummah. Her efforts in narrating hadith of Rasulullah s.a.w made it possible for us to learn it now.  She even teached numerous sahabah after the death of Rasulullah s.a.w and spend the rest of her lifetime intellectually contributing for the Ummah.  That is our real-life heroine!

Hello to the Other Side

Frankly saying, I'm a person who prefers not to relate 'baitul muslim' as a lovey-dovey all perfect , 'arnab gemok berlarian di padang rumput indah dibuai bayu' thingy. It is undeniably beautiful and the endless invitation of walimah invitations coming to our social media account making us think about it every once in a while 😅 .


Ready to make the move?

Take a deep breath and try to perceive it maturely, as an adult.  Moving up the stairs of Maratib Amal means that you're ready to take up additional responsibilities and thriving through new obstacles in order to obtain sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah.  I can't help it but to think,

What type of family am I going to lead?

What type of parents am I going to make?

and the trail of endless questions goes on. That's the downside of choleric-melancholic, we have the tendency to overthink..haha.  Sometimes, it kinda give me the shivers in acknowledging the responsibilities that'll come with it.  The idea of trusting someone and holding onto a lifelong commitment, we just can prepare and hope that Allah leads all our decisions.  This is where 'I' turns to 'we'.

The Life-Changing Move

By saying 'I do', it means that I'm willing to give long-term commitment, to stay by his side in good times or bad times, rain or shine.  

To accept my partner and complement each other in our goal of achieving something better for the sake of Ummah.  

To tone down my ego and let him lead, because that responsibility will now belong to somebody else.  

To get myself prepared, financially, physically, emotionally, intellectually and socially moving towards that goal.

To not be deeply immersed with individualistic values, to continue serving the Ummah whichever way possible.  To give more and try our best to change the society we're living in.


To continue improving myself everyday (islah) and to have good faith with Allah, be resolute and always try to to find 'ibrah' from His creations.


The Stairs of Amal (Maratib Amal)


Most probably a couple of years from now I'm going to re-read this post and laugh.  But well, that's my thoughts on marriage right now.  The ideas are there, but a bit scattered like an incomplete jigsaw puzzle.  It seems that the parenting part needs to wait for another post..:D

So dear friends, I hope this short article doesn't intimidate you, but at least to give some drive or a new perspective on this topic.  Looking on our current situation, life after graduation seems to be very challenging and uncertain, the least we can do is to start planning and try to have a good mindset.  The road is still far ahead and we shall need enough fuel (ibadah) and vehicle (tarbiyah/'ilm) to keep moving.

As an optimist Muslim we pray for the best outcome, InsyaAllah. In the meantime, what we can do is to get ourselves prepared and give the best to all that we have  (our parents, family, friends, studies,  organization, mad'u).  This post is actually a humble reminder for myself  :)

Dear sisters, never stop praying for the best! We plan and He plans and verily, He is the Best Planner.





Jessica Pearson, Princess General Leia Organa or Katniss Everdeen?

Wait!
We have Khadijah, 'Aisyah and Khawlah :)

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Panduan Menjadi Moderator


Bismillah,

Time flies so fast, guess what, we're already in the second month of 2016! It is currently raining heavily outside, which I really love..hihi.  My internship term is approaching its end in a couple of months before departing back to the garden of knowledge, UTP. But, just let me enjoy the rest of my stay in Kerteh first ya : )

Alhamdulillah, I was given a chance to moderate a session with Ustazah Norhafizah Musa back in December. It is a parenting talk entitled "Super Ummi, Super Abi" held at Dewan Sri Intan, PMO. As much as the word 'parenting' entices your curiosity, I learned a lot from the speaker herself and also from the highly-attentive audiences.  InsyaAllah I'll share some notes in the upcoming posts, but first I'd like to jot down some important points taken from Dr. Maszlee Malik's book : Risalah Pemuda Muslim.


Panduan menjadi moderator (diambil dari Risalah Pemuda Muslim tulisan Dr. Maszlee Malik). Tips dari penulis memang banyak membantu, who knows, maybe I can moderate a session like Wacana Sinar in UTP? :D

1. Moderator bukan ahli panel tambahan

Bersikap tegas dalam menjaga masa, terus kepada isi, bersikap kritikal kepada jawapan yang dikongsikan dan tidak menadai-mandai menambah.

2. Jangan tunjuk pandai

Mesti pandai menyampuk dengan soalan pembunuh "killer" jika ahli panel telah tersasar ataupun hilang kawalan dengan cuba memesongkan fakta atau lari daripada soalan. 

3. Cakap apa yang penonton mahu tanya dan mahu dengar

- Jangan syok sendiri 
- Jangan menjadi pak turut dengan membaca bulat-bulat soalan yang diberikan tanpa mengira kesan kepada penonton.
- Moderator yang berintegriti akan mementingkan impak program kepada penonton
- Program sebagai medium untuk mendidik masyarakat 
- Buat homework mengenai tajuk forum dan isu berkaitan.

4. Jangan berpihak, tetapi bersikap kritikal dan sinikal terhadap semua pihak

Apa yang paling utama bagi para moderator, mereka perlu menjadi interlokutor atau investigator yang dapat mencungkil dari hati dan pemikiran ahli panel agar mereka dapat kongsikan bersama para penonton.  Moderator ialah pendidik!

5. Di atas pentas, moderator ialah raja


- Controlling audience adalah hak mutlak moderator.
- Bersikap tegas tetapi meraikan semua pihak terutamanya dalam menjaga masa.

6. Moderator ialah interlokutor 
Kemampuan mencungkil pemikiran dan hujah terpendam ahli panel adalah 'gift' utama seorang moderator untuk dipersembahkan kepada hadirin.




As a reflection, I can say that it is very crucial for us 'mahasiswa' to be able to organize more intellectual discourses, wherever we are. This is the avenue where we can get crystal-clear explanations and drill the panels with our 'killer' questions. These sessions will be our platform to educate the society and hopefully, bringing some senses back. 

We need more matured individuals in this country, so tag along, wake up and do whatever it takes to rejuvenate this Ummah!

"Seorang Mukmin yang bercampur bergaul dengan masyarakat dan sabar atas kepedihan dan kepayahan yang ditimbulkan oleh masyarakatnya, adalah lebih besar ganjarannya daripada Mukmin yang tidak bergaul dengan masyarakat dan tidak sabar atas kepedihan, kepayahan dan kejahatan masyarakatnya."

(Riwayat Al-Bukhari, Al- Tirmizi & Ahmad)


Do what you have to do - Harvey Specter








Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Let's Start 2016 With a Bismillah

Bismillah,
I ended 2015 with lots of rushing, here and there. Going places while attending programs, trying my best to enjoy every step of the way. However, until the 20th day of year 2016, it felt a bit aimless. I didn't actually have a proper mission or objective to kickstart this year.




You know me, I'm the ambitious one, always competing for something. Even my mom said that I won't even give way to my lil' brother (when we're small, of course)..hehe
Until yesterday, I received a news that one of my senior was struck with a misfortune. Her house was burnt down to the ground due to short circuit and resulted in a total loss. Innalillahi wainna ilaihi rajiun.

My dad used to tell me this, "in comparing with others, sometimes (or most of the times), you need to see those who are needy than you, those who don't really have".  If you watch the news yesterday, there's one story about a girl who lose both of her legs in an accident. (Read here). It struck me hard that for quite some time, I've overlook the bounty that Allah have given me, or my family. Yes, I say Alhamdulillah everyday, but do I really mean it?


Today, somebody might have lost their child, or their house, or their limbs. And with His blessings, we still have ours. I believe there's a reason for everything, yet, sometimes I forget to actually see the positive side of His taqdir. To hold on to His Promises, to say thank you and see things with a better perspective.



That's my pledge this year. 
1.To see things in a clearer, more positive view. 
2. To be patient, waiting hurts, but always try to make full use of the time given.
3. Not to give up, you are a fighter!
4. To be a giver, always try my best to contribute to this Ummah, eventhough how small it is.
5. To contemplate and reflect more of His creations.
6. To always, and always remember Him
7. To never stop chasing my passion in seeking knowledge
8. To be happy


If we take some time to reflect upon His blessings, surely you would smile :)
And when I'm down, please remind me that He's always near, nearer than our jugular vein. That all His tests is for my own good. 



To Kak Eiju, you are strong, very strong, please remember this du'a taught by our Prophet (peace be upon him) for times of difficulty: “If a servant of Allah is afflicted with a misfortune and says: ‘Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un, Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha‘ 

(Verily we belong to Allah and truly to Him shall we return. O Allah! Protect me in this calamity that has befallen me and replace it with something better), Allah will accept his prayer, grant him reward for his affliction, and replace it with something better.”

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